Why do people never understand me?

Is there something wrong in how I write? (This is not about EP by the way. Just life in general.)

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That is your greatness. The plant cannot make people to understand it. You get to know yourself clearly first, then you will know how to communicate with other people, and where are the mutual limitations.



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See how many parents become so amazed when their children think and act extraordinarily beyond their comprehension and imagination. And how wrong are other parents who think that they can mold their offsprings into some types of puppets as they wish! And it is not rare of cases where the children abandon families for disappointedly expecting that their parents to understand them. In fact, the feeling of mutual understanding is available only when people sincerely love and sacrify for one another.

Formerly, the philosophers classified men into, say, a thousand and one categories, based on observing their activities and their physical properties. But, the masses may think of about ten categories, such as the masters and the slaves, the poor and the rich, the wise and the fool, then the sentimental, the rational, the spiritual, and the abnormal, the weird, the extraordinary…And there is confusion in each of these categories. Nowadays, we know that each individual is unique with physical fingerprint, ADN, and something else in the mysterious gens. Spiritually speaking, the human soul reflects all the qualities of God, which no computers can illustrate.

That is why, throughout history, the rare sages keep on teaching man the principle of “know thyself and be thyself.” He who learns and practices this principle, becomes king in his particular field; he who does not learn, falls into the oblivion of the great multitude.

So, step by step, in various educational systems of our time, we are replacing the teacher-centered approaches, by pro-active child-centered approaches. The teachers should no longer consider their pupils as white pieces of papers for them to write down their learnings; but they must know that each child is a particular plant to be tendered in its own way. Each plant will contribute its particular leaves, flowers, fruits for the vast human orchard. Morever, the plant is said here as an example; and we must realize that each man has his own mysterious soul to be nurtured with the greatest love and knowledge.

Luckily, great knowledge for all these things are now shared freely and abundantly on the Internet. What we need most now, as teachers, parents, caretakers, is the new cultrure of learning.



Is it okay to hate a parent and never want to see or talk to him again? never want to give him a chance?

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No okay, never, never and never.
We have no rights to judge other people, more particularly our parents.
Usually, when a person had children, he would regret very much for treating badly his parents.



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The betterment of the world cannot be realized with man’s judging and punishing other people. Without divine guidance, our judgement is false and our punishment is unjust, because we are not all-knowing. The UN Security Council will only become effective when the UN members learn to bring sincere love and cooperation to this institution. That is why we are wisely establishing democracies instead of monarchies.

It is bad that parents are judging their children instead of loving them. It is worse that children judge their parents instead of loving them. It is bad that the governments judge their citizens instead of loving them. It is worse that citizens judge the governments instead of loving these institutions that they themselves established. It is bad that the United Nations Organization judges human beings instead loving them. It is worse that mankind judge the United Nations instead of cooperating to improve it and bringing it to perfection as a democratic government.

The positive thinking and acting of each individual is not an insigficant thing. It is truly the foundation of all good. The problem is, due to the wrong thinking and doing in the Age of immaturity, we imagine that only our own ego is good, and our single good ego cannot cause the world to change effectively and positively.

This is why we need a new learning for the radical change. The Baha’is are learning and practicing the Teachings of Baha’u’llah which turn them into a new race of positive and peaceful servants. They don’t think of judging and punishing other people, thanks to this new and powerful lesson:

“The companions of God,” Bahá’u’lláh Himself has declared, “are, in this day, the lump that must leaven the peoples of the world. They must show forth such trustworthiness, such truthfulness and perseverance, such deeds and character that all mankind may profit by their example.” “I swear by Him Who is the Most Great Ocean!” He again affirms, “Within the very breath of such souls as are pure and sanctified far-reaching potentialities are hidden. So great are these potentialities that they exercise their influence upon all created things.” “He is the true servant of God,” He, in another passage has written, “who, in this day, were he to pass through cities of silver and gold, would not deign to look upon them, and whose heart would remain pure and undefiled from whatever things can be seen in this world, be they its goods or its treasures. I swear by the Sun of Truth! The breath of such a man is endowed with potency, and his words with attraction.” “By Him Who shineth above the Dayspring of sanctity!” He, still more emphatically, has revealed, “If the whole earth were to be converted into silver and gold, no man who can be said to have truly ascended into the heaven of faith and certitude would deign to regard it, much less to seize and keep it…. “The betterment of the world,” is  yet another statement, “can be accomplished through pure and goodly deeds, through commendable and seemly conduct.” “Be fair to yourselves and to others,” He thus counseleth them, “that the evidences of justice may be revealed through your deeds among Our faithful servants.” “Equity,” He also has written, “is the most fundamental among human virtues. The evaluation of all things must needs depend upon it.” (Shoghi Effendi, The Advent of Divine Justice, p. 25)

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